Managing difficult people and dealing with difficult people in your life can be a real battle. In several previous posts we discussed Managing Difficult People Steps 1 to 2; Steps 3 to 4 and Steps 5 to 6. In this post we will look a little more closely at two further steps in the 12 Steps in planning and preparation for managing difficult people. Here are the Steps 7 to 8…
STEP 7 IN LOOKING FROM THE OUTSIDE IN ON THE SITUATION
Try and step back and look at the situation from the outside looking in. Difficult people can drive you to drink, so looking on as if you were an observer can be very helpful. This will help you see the bigger picture in dealing with difficult people.
Looking from the outside in allows you to work at seeing a wider perspective in the overall situation. It also helps to you to detach a bit more emotionally from the situation and relationship with this person. You can then start to think a bit more clearly about what you are going to do about the situation as if you were separate from the circumstances and able to give unemotional advice.
STEP 8 IN CHOOSING YOUR BATTLES VERY CAREFULLY
Too many of us in managing difficult people go into battle over everything. This increases your anxiety, stress and frustration. Decide carefully what issues you need to pursue and what you just need to let go. Sometimes in dealing with difficult people, you see everything they do in a negative light. You are then constantly fighting battles with them about everything.
SMALLER ISSUES THAT DID NOT BOTHER YOU
Smaller issues you would otherwise easily let go, now become part of a constant battleground. Behavior in others that you would ignore, become a focus for you with this particular frustrating person. So be determined to only choose the most vital and important battles to pursue. Make sure to choose only a few well defined battles and not react to everything.
FURTHER IDEAS COMING IN HANDLING DIFFICULT PEOPLE
There are more ideas to come. In our next post we will discuss more steps from the 12 steps for you in managing difficult people.