Difficult People and More Thoughts on the Coach Approach
So you dealing with difficult people at work or at home? The work and home environment is full of very difficult people. Such people descend in all sizes and shapes. They’re exacting, fastidious, problematical and exhausting. And those are barely the respectful words used while interacting and dealing with difficult people.
DIFFICULT PEOPLE BRING OUT YOUR EMOTIONS
When dealing with difficult people at work or in your personal life, you often feel a range of emotions including anger, resentfulness, befuddlement, fear and frustration. In confronting these people you go through a big dipper of emotions and feelings. But here is the problem. Your emotions in reality get in your way of effectively addressing difficult people.
DEALING WITH PEOPLE NOW
Now there are a lot of ways to handle your emotions with such contrary and prickly people. But if you’re dealing with people you need to in the end reduce your emotional reactions. So here is a excellent method, I call the ‘coach approach’ when dealing with difficult people at work and at home.
THE COACH APPROACH IN DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
Endeavor to step back and seek to start to analyze the situation as a coach, from the outside looking in. Not from the inside looking out. Too much emotion ‘fogs’ your thinking and makes it difficult to ascertain the best ways of dealing with people. Naturally you cannot actually do this is in the ‘heat’ of the moment. But after, when you have had an opportunity to mull over, attempt to consider the ‘big picture’.
VISUALIZING ANOTHER WAY IN DEALING WITH PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE
Commence by visualizing yourself looking down on the situation and your reactions to that person and their conduct. As an observer, start to coach yourself on what to do and how to deal with the situation next time with a set-apart mindset.
AN ACTION REPLAY OF THE GAME BY YOU THE COACH
Change into the coach, as though you’re looking on a replay of the game. Why? As this gives you a less emotional perspective by which to ascertain and discover how you’d respond differently the next time. When you’re the coach you’re much less emotional and so much more objective. You begin to consider method and strategy, as you role-play in your mind how you’d change the way you respond differently next time in handling difficult people.
HANDLING TROUBLESOME PEOPLE IN YOUR MIND
“The picture you have in your mind of what you’re about will come true”, as Bob Dylan said. It is time to look from the outside in and begin to apply the coach approach while managing difficult people.
DIFFICULT PEOPLE RESOURCES FOR YOU
Would you like lots more tips and ideas to assist you coach yourself in dealing with difficult people at work and in your personal life? You’ve many resources waiting for you and a complimentary copy of our book Dealing with Difficult People. This Guide will contribute so many more ideas for you that you can use with those difficult people at home and in dealing with difficult people at work.
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