Tuesday, December 12, 2017

Dealing with Difficult People and Picking Those Difficult People

by DrJudy on

Dealing with difficult people often means trying to work out how difficult someone is going to be for you.

THE DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE QUESTIONS AND IDEAS

In the previous difficult people post we discussed some ideas on the question from Sharon: “How to detect these types of people quickly”.

And Lilian’s question:   “Is there any kind of trick to figure quickly that a difficult person will became a dangerous co-worker? I mean, there are difficult people and people that love to put a rock in your way…but there’s also people with difficulties. 

How to figure quickly the difference and how to deal with each one?  Thanks”.

HERE ARE SOME QUICK TIPS ON PICKING REALLY DIFFICULT PEOPLE

Now there are many ideas you can put into practice but let’s start with 3 quick suggestions to open the window to picking difficult people early…

1. Keep your past experiences in mind.   We can learn much from our past experiences no matter how negative they have been.  If you have dealt with difficult people previously in your life then this can give you  greater insight when you come across someone similar in the future.  So take note of what you have learned from the past to use in the present and future in managing difficult people.

2. Trust your intuition. Be prepared to trust your own feelings and intuition.  When things do not feel right and you cannot explain why but feel this way, then that is your intuition at work.  That strange feeling you have in the pit of your stomach about this other person.  Most often we ignore our gut feelings but many times listening to your own feelings, your intuition can be very important in dealing with people.

3.  Be cautious with others. When you meet new people in any situations, whether this is at work or in your personal life err on the side of caution.  Understand that it always takes time to get to know people.  And remember that people only reveal themselves and remove their masks slowly.  So start with caution when dealing with people and you will learn more safely who these people really are.

MORE IDEAS TO COME ON DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE

Have you more thoughts and ideas on finding out whether you will find a person difficult.   Whether they will be frustrating, stressful, obnoxious and a real problem to you.  Get ready for even more ideas in future posts on dealing with difficult people.

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